The answer of course is
‘you wouldn’t…!’, ‘you wouldn’t do anything unless you had a reason to do it…’
Seriously,
- You wouldn’t get dressed unless you had somewhere to go
- You wouldn’t eat your dinner unless you were hungry and … equally
- You wouldn’t get into a taxi just for the view !!! That would seem mad !!
BUT, people get transfixed by what they want to DO and less of who they want to BE. I‘ll explain.
ONE simple FACT
Most people don’t know what they want to do when they leave school. Most of us grown-ups don’t even know what we want to do and we’ve been around loads longer !!
BUT, I bet you know who you want to BE….
ANOTHER simple FACT
People know who they want to BE…
People always have a vision about what they aspire to look like, behave, holiday, friends, hairstyle etc…. it’s perfectly normal.
So, for me it was simple…
- I wanted to be successful
- I wanted to look good
- I wanted to have a nice car
- I wanted to own a house
- I wanted to be married
- I wanted to have kids
- I wanted to look have fun
- I wanted to go on expensive holidays
NOW, whilst some of these things are not quite so TRUE today (I didn’t even mention my health), they were then…
And, when you know who you want to be then you normally have some clarity about what it is that you need to do to get there….
For example, I can still easily BE all of the above whether I’m a doctor or an accountant or a business owner. The point being that just because your job changes (what you do), you can still achieve your ambitions doing something else (what you want to be).
ONE more simple FACT
People change their minds !!
This is normal – who doesn’t change their mind in their life, we all do. I did and I’m sure you did too. What is good for you at the age of 16 is unlikely to good for you at 36.
So, planning for the future is actually straight forward enough if you focus on who you want to be and less what you want to do….
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